I have been struck recently by the importance of how my relationship with Christ impacts my parenting.
I’ve been participating in a daily Bible study called #hellomornings that involves members of our 15 person online accountability group posting a picture to Instagram each day. We are going through the book of Matthew and my pics often include whatever I’m eating for breakfast or what distraction I’ve given Serafina so that I can complete that day’s God/Plan/Move time. The program is set up to help you start your day right spiritually, logistically, and physically though sometimes this pregnant mama just can’t get up before her energetic-gets-up-at-5:45-am daughter.
On the days I am able to get up before her and do #hellomornings, I am amazed at how much better I am throughout the day on focusing on the right parts of parenting. I am more patient, perceptive, understanding, compassionate, and ultimately, wise in my dealings both with Serafina. I also feel that I exhibit these qualities better when interacting with the high schoolers I coach on a daily basis.
So while I’m sure Tripp intends the following quote to refer to pointing our children to Christ, we must first align ourselves to focus on Him before we can ever hope to point them to Our Savior.
Christ must be YOUR center before He can ever be the center of your parenting
There have been too many times in my life that I have let daily Bible reading and/or prayer fall by the wayside. I frantically try and catch up by doing several days of a devotional in one sitting because I know it’s the right thing to do and it’s what I am supposed to do as a good Christian. Gretchen Rubin writes,
What I do every day matters more than what I do once in awhile.
While she may be referring any habit, I take this quote as a challenge to purposefully set aside time each day to listen to what God has to say to me. Monday through Friday, it’s #hellomornings and whatever reading we’re on in Serafina’s toddler Bible. Saturday, it’s a few rounds through the piece of sheet music currently on our piano that also happens to be the worship song Offering by Paul Baloche. Sunday, it’s what I get to soak up through worship at church as well as either the sermon or the Sunday school lesson I’m helping with.
So why does Christ need to be the center? Because that’s how God commanded us to parent. First, though, He must be my center. And with the distractions that so easily take me off track, I’ll be working the rest of my life to keep Him that way.
This is part of a 31 day series of shepherding a child’s heart in 5 minutes a day (click here for the series intro). I pray this series edifies you as much as reading Tripp’s book has encouraged and challenged my husband and I in how we raise our children. Subscribe to the blog in the side bar if you’d like to get posts emailed to you in a weekly digest or subscribe on your favorite blog reader.